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November 8, 2023

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Postpartum care is a critical period for new mothers, yet it is often overlooked in our society.

Many women struggle with physical and emotional changes after giving birth, and the lack of support and attention to their needs can lead to postpartum depression and other health issues. This is why Dr. Kristal Lau’s book on postpartum care is a crucial addition to the conversation.

When Kristal joined the AHN community two years ago, she was still pivoting out of her medical career. She shared that her mom has been encouraging her to pursue her idea of writing a book on Malaysian Chinese postpartum confinement practices and include notes from her medical background.

During her confinement month after birthing her first child, Kristal compromised with her mother to modernize some of the confinement practices by medical logic. With a balance of traditional Chinese and modern postpartum care, her book provides a comprehensive guide for modern moms to take care of themselves during this important time while feeling connected to their Chinese roots.

In this article, we will dive into Kristal’s journey as an author. We will also explore why postpartum care should be a mainstream topic and why it is important to prioritize the health and well-being of new mothers.

BECOMING A MOTHER OF TWO

I practiced medicine in Australia as a Basic Physician Trainee before moving to the USA and would’ve chosen to specialize in geriatrics medicine if I hadn’t met my husband.

Ironically, I’ve chosen to work in the perinatal world now, because I used to actively avoid seeing pregnant women patients when I was a junior doctor. I felt intimidated by the responsibility of two lives and potentially more if the patient already had children.

Becoming a mother of 2 while facing the challenges of a modern immigrant from South East Asia to the West (and being a US military spouse) opened my eyes to the importance of postpartum care in setting mothers up to thrive in the postpartum year and beyond. Especially when I was planning for my first confinement practice and had to adapt things to where we were living in rural Alabama. From this experience, I decided that contributing to a small part of the perinatal industry was fitting.

POSTPARTUM 30: THIRTY DAYS TO A NURTURED FOURTH TRIMESTER

The core message of my book entitled “Postpartum 30: Thirty Days to a Nurtured Fourth Trimester” is about preserving a traditional and cultural practice so that it remains relevant to current and future generations. Otherwise, we’d forget!

So, the key components of my book showcase the best of both worlds. I discuss postpartum physiology (what we know today about how the birthing body recovers after birth) and basic Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) principles around the postpartum body. 

I have chapters dedicated to adapting confinement practices to fit a modern mom and her family’s needs and lifestyle. I also guide readers on how to respectfully tell their mothers or mothers-in-law that they’d like to practice a modern version of confinement and include them in the picture.

MODERN MOMS WITH CHINESE ROOTS CAN EASILY BENEFIT FROM THIS BOOK

Firstly, it’s written in English! Readers don’t have to know any Mandarin or Chinese dialects (just like me!) to understand the TCM and confinement concepts I discuss in the book.

Secondly, I include historical references about the confinement practice and discuss why certain practices made sense to our ancestors. Finally, I challenge two aspects of the traditional confinement practice head-on. I encourage readers to embrace all the emotions that come with the chaos of the postpartum period instead of pushing them away. And I encourage spouses and partners to be the main confinement support person rather than another family member.

PUBLISHING MY BOOK HAS BEEN VERY SURREAL

I fully invested in writing this book after the overwhelming support from Asian Hustle Network group members when this book was just an idea. I also appreciated the nuances brought up by the AHN members in that defining post which added more to developing my book’s content. My first beta readers were also from the AHN community!

I’ve always wanted to be an author ever since I was a teen, so I can’t believe that I’ve done it! The book has also allowed me to represent a small part of Malaysian and Chinese culture to the world. Plus, it’s my biggest ticket away from medicine and into carving out an unconventional career that works for me!

Making time to write my book was the biggest challenge because I got pregnant with my second baby just after starting a 6-month book coaching program to develop my book. I’ve also been living in Germany since 2020 due to my husband being stationed here at a military base. So, I was writing on and off throughout my pregnancy and postpartum year while juggling our newborn, toddler, deployments, 2 dogs, and trying to thrive in a foreign country. The next biggest challenge was believing in myself, and that I have what it takes to write on this topic.

BALANCE AND EVOLUTION FOR POSTPARTUM CARE

To balance traditional Chinese practices of postpartum care with modern medical logic, I drew from my professional background as a medical doctor and a public health graduate, and my personal background as a Malaysian who grew up with both TCM and modern medicine. I also consulted with my medical peers and a TCM doctor (a connection I made through AHN too!) about how postpartum care from the East and West can meet in the middle.

An example of this balance is compromising on the hair-washing practice. Personal hygiene is a big part of the confinement practice. The strict traditional way is no hair washing for the entire confinement month. A modern compromise is to not wash the hair for the first 2 weeks and once you start washing your hair, make sure to dry it completely while in the warm bathroom before stepping out into a more chilly environment.

As more attention is given to the concept of matrescence, the transition a woman goes through to become a mother, it’s important to recognize the need for nurturing and support during this time.

Physical therapy should be a standard part of postpartum care, as many women suffer from pelvic floor and back pain issues after giving birth. Unfortunately, too many women are told that these issues are “normal” and should be lived with. Pain and discomfort should not be considered normal, and pelvic floor rehabilitation should be a global standard of care for all new mothers, rather than being limited to a few countries or requiring out-of-pocket expenses. The rest of us have to learn how to ask for pelvic floor rehabilitation referrals and likely pay out of pocket for it.

CARING FOR NEW MOTHERS

Two big areas where family members can help a new mother in the postpartum period are to help her feel seen and alleviate her mental load.

Unfortunately, new mothers frequently fade into the background as the newborn baby takes the spotlight. So, holding space for the new mother to grow into her new identity and showering her with attention reminds her that she’s still her own person and that she’s equally important as the baby!

Women and mothers are also commonly the main household manager in many families who do all the planning, troubleshooting, and preempting of troubles. This is the mental load of women and mothers. Alleviating this during the postpartum period isn’t just asking her what help she needs, it’s becoming the Project Manager at home while she recovers.

Asking her what she needs still requires her to plan and troubleshoot, and that doesn’t help lighten her mental load when she needs all the energy to recover from birth and care for the newborn.

MODERN MOTHERS HAVE DIFFERENT NEEDS THAN THE GENERATIONS BEFORE

First, society needs to accept that this generation and the upcoming generation of modern mothers have very different needs and challenges compared to the generation before us and not shame us for it. 

For example, many women in my generation (especially us Millennials in developing countries like Malaysia) have been conditioned to “do-it-all” i.e. excel at our careers and in being a mother. It’s ingrained in us to “mother like we didn’t have jobs and achieve in our career like we didn’t have children”. Why do moms today carry this burden? It’s likely because we were exposed to conflicting messages about womanhood and motherhood while growing up. We were empowered to be anything we wanted and that we could achieve anything we put our minds and hard work to i.e. embrace the modern woman identity. Yet, we’re still pressured to marry before 30 and start having kids while constantly reminded, “Don’t waste your education by becoming a stay-at-home mom!”. Balancing the identities of an empowered modern woman with the traditional (and biological) roles within motherhood is a unique challenge for many moms of our generation.

So, only when society is willing to empathize with this struggle, then they can provide the social, emotional, and mental support to help modern moms thrive as they go through matrescence.

My book normalizes the notion of nurturing mothers from the beginning of their motherhood journey; the postpartum year. I encourage mothers to prioritize themselves and not feel completely guilty about it. And to get comfortable with asking for help and accepting help before things get too overwhelming. It’s nice to be recognized as a SuperMom but it’s also nice to not have to live up to that image.

CONNECT WITH KRISTAL

Instagram: @mamaswingwoman

Facebook: @mamaswingwoman

Twitter: @drkristallau

LinkedIn: Kristal L.

Website: mamaswingwoman.com

Book webpage: tinyurl.com/pp30book

Author webpage: Kristal Lau – Mandala Tree Press

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Designer Behind a 260,000-Follower Community Wins Four International Design Awards for a Social App Concept Where Communities Are Built to End

Vera Li, a Founding Product Designer at Gemini Legal and creator with over 260,000 followers, has won four international design awards for her social app concept, Season.

Inspired by her experiences across China, Singapore, and the United States, Season explores a different way of building online communities.

Unlike traditional social platforms, Season’s communities dissolve and re-form every 30 days, allowing connections to evolve as people do.

Building Communities Across Borders

Vera received Gold at the London Design Awards and Tokyo Design Awards, along with Silver at the MUSE Design Awards and NY Product Design Awards. Her concept, Season, challenges how traditional social platforms work. Instead of keeping people in the same online communities indefinitely, Season’s communities dissolve and re-form every 30 days, allowing users to connect with people who reflect who they are at that point in their lives.

The idea comes from Vera’s own experiences of moving between countries and building new connections.

She grew up in a small town in rural Henan, a farming province in central China, before her family moved to Zhengzhou, the provincial capital. At 15, she earned the Singapore government’s SM1 full-ride scholarship and spent four years studying abroad, far from home and everyone she knew. She later moved to the United States to attend UCLA, once again finding herself in a new environment where she had to build her own community.

Each move taught her something about belonging. The people and places around her changed, but she continued finding ways to connect with others.

Finding Connection Through Dance and Design

Dance became one of Vera’s earliest ways of bringing people together. At UCLA, she founded dance teams, organized dance camps across four international cities, and taught dance in Los Angeles.

She also performed as a backup dancer at major events, including the MAMA Awards and KCON, sharing stages with artists such as J.Y. Park, ITZY, IVE, and ZICO. She also shared the stage with AESPA at Long Beach Arena.

These experiences showed her how people from different backgrounds could come together through a shared interest, even if only for a short time.

Vera eventually brought that same experience online. Through @VeraLiStudio on YouTube and @vera_shalala on TikTok and Instagram, she built a community of more than 260,000 followers around dance and movement, connecting people across languages and cultures.

Her interest in building meaningful experiences later led her into product design. She moved to Pittsburgh to pursue a Master of Human-Computer Interaction at Carnegie Mellon University before returning to Los Angeles.

For the past three years, Vera has worked as the sole Founding Product Designer at Gemini Legal, a legal technology company. She has led design initiatives for several products from concept to launch, most recently the company’s legal drafting tool, DraftEngine.

Working as a one-person design team also meant creating a design culture of her own. When she noticed a lack of opportunities for designers in Los Angeles to share their work and connect, she organized “Designers in the Age of AI,” an event that attracted hundreds of designers.

A New Approach to Online Communities

Vera’s experiences across different cities, dance communities, and product design eventually shaped Season.

The concept draws inspiration from the Japanese aesthetic principle Mono no Aware (物の哀れ), which recognizes the bittersweet beauty of things that do not last forever.

Rather than encouraging users to maintain permanent online communities, Season allows groups to naturally end and form again every 30 days. The idea reflects Vera’s belief that relationships and communities can remain meaningful even as they change.

“I have spent my whole life walking into rooms full of strangers and turning them into places where people belong,” Vera shares. 

“Every one of those communities had a season. Some friendships lasted, but the room itself always changed. Season is the first time I designed software that tells the truth about that instead of pretending the room is permanent.”

This fall, Vera moved to San Francisco, marking another chapter in her career. She has also begun a Doctor of Business Administration with a concentration in Applied Computer Science, focusing her research interests on human-centered design and how digital products can better serve their communities.

Her work in design is also opening new opportunities. Vera was recently invited to join the  International Academy of Digital Arts and Sciences (IADAS) and will soon begin judging the Webby Awards.

For Vera, the same principle continues to guide her work: great design is always intentional, and the people using it should be able to feel the difference.

Follow Vera’s journey in rethinking digital connections. 

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Steve Liu Knows How to Draw a Crowd. With TRI3E, He Wants to Help Communities Grow.

From producing shows with major artists to leading product design at Amazon and Palo Alto Networks, Steve Liu knows a thing or two about bringing people together.

With TRI3E, he’s using what he’s learned to help people, creators, businesses, and organizations build stronger communities.

Understanding What Brings People Together

Filling a venue is one thing. Getting people excited enough to bring their friends is another. Steve Liu learned that firsthand in San Francisco’s nightlife scene.

As a nightclub promoter and event producer, he helped organize shows featuring The Chainsmokers, Far East Movement, MC Jin, and comedian Ali Wong.

What stood out to Steve wasn’t just how people discovered events, but what happened when they came together. Friends brought friends, new connections formed, and people found a sense of belonging through shared experiences.

He realized that the most meaningful part of bringing people together wasn’t filling a room. It was creating experiences people genuinely enjoyed, felt part of, and wanted to share with others.

A Different Way of Looking at Problems

Outside entertainment, Steve was building a career in technology. He eventually led product design teams at Amazon and Palo Alto Networks, working on products involving cloud computing, global supply chains, and cybersecurity.

The work was different from organizing events, but it taught Steve how to approach complex, multidimensional problems. Working across technology, business, and human needs, he learned to connect different perspectives, navigate competing priorities, and turn complicated challenges into practical solutions.

His experience as an entrepreneur also gave him a firsthand understanding of how difficult it can be to grow a business, reach the right people, and keep them engaged.

Over time, those experiences started to come together. He had seen how people brought others into events and communities, and he understood how technology could help make those connections easier.

That got him thinking about what better community-building tools could look like.

Helping Communities Do More Together

Think about a restaurant planning an event, a creator looking to bring supporters together, or a community organizer trying to reach more people.

They already have people interested in what they do. The challenge is finding ways to get those people involved, keep them connected, and encourage them to bring others along.

That’s the thinking behind TRI3E (Tribe), the platform Steve is building.

TRI3E aims to help individuals, creators, businesses, and organizations build and grow their communities. Through the platform, they can share events and opportunities, invite others to participate, and give members more ways to stay involved.

For a restaurant, that could mean inviting regular customers to an event and encouraging them to bring friends. For a creator, it could mean sharing a new project with supporters. For an organization, it could mean helping members discover opportunities and meet others with similar interests.

The goal is to make it easier for people to stay involved, bring others along, and create more opportunities within their communities.

Building What’s Next

For Steve, TRI3E is an opportunity to bring together years of experience in technology, entrepreneurship, and entertainment around an idea with much broader potential.

Whether it’s a neighborhood restaurant, an independent creator, or a network like Asian Hustle Network, communities already have people who want to see them succeed.

What if those people had better ways to make that happen?

That’s the vision behind TRI3E: helping people turn their existing connections into more opportunities for their communities.

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From Vancouver to the World: Thomas Vu’s Vision for Hanoi Drip Coffee

Vietnam is one of the world’s biggest coffee-producing countries, yet Thomas Vu rarely saw Vietnamese coffee given the same attention in North America’s specialty coffee scene.

That gap became the idea behind Hanoi Drip Coffee, a Vancouver-based Vietnamese specialty coffee brand that has grown into a multi-million-dollar cafe business in just over two years.

For Vu, the goal goes beyond opening more cafes. He wants people to see Vietnamese coffee differently and prove that a brand deeply rooted in culture can belong on a global stage.

Giving Vietnamese Coffee the Spotlight It Deserves

Vu grew up around the flavors and rituals that make Vietnamese coffee instantly recognizable, from strong Robusta to condensed milk and the slow drip of a phin. Yet despite Vietnam’s rich coffee history, he felt much of that story was still missing from mainstream specialty coffee culture.

That became the opportunity behind Hanoi Drip. Rather than recreate a traditional Vietnamese cafe, Vu and his team asked a bigger question: What could a global Vietnamese coffee brand look like today?

Their answer was to keep the parts of Vietnamese coffee they loved while presenting them for a new generation. Hanoi Drip serves coffee grown in Vietnam, including coffee from Đà Lạt, and puts Robusta, Vietnamese flavors, and phin brewing at the center of the experience.

Learning How to Grow Without Losing the Brand

Building the brand was one challenge. Learning how to grow it without losing what people connected with was another.

When Hanoi Drip was smaller, Vu and the other founders could be involved in nearly every part of the business. As more locations followed, they had to learn how to train teams, develop leaders, manage costs, maintain product consistency, and make sure customers still had a strong experience even when the founders were not there.

Mistakes have been part of that process, and Vu does not pretend otherwise. His approach is to treat them as useful information: fix the problem, build a better system, and move forward, a mindset that has helped Hanoi Drip expand into multiple locations alongside retail coffee, wholesale, and membership offerings.

Taking Vietnamese Coffee Beyond Vancouver

For Vu, some of Hanoi Drip’s most meaningful wins happen when someone tastes Vietnamese coffee for the first time and wants to know more. It also means hearing Vietnamese customers say the brand reminds them of home while still feeling like it belongs to their generation.

That connection has extended beyond coffee. During KOOLFEST 2025, customers purchased more than 1,600 Ube Coconut Coffee and Ube Milk drinks, helping Hanoi Drip raise over $5,500 for a local charity, while the company has also created jobs and collaborated with Asian-owned businesses and creators.

And Vu is still thinking much bigger. He hopes to bring Hanoi Drip beyond Vancouver to markets such as Toronto and Los Angeles, while showing other Asian founders that building something modern does not mean leaving their culture behind.

Learn more about Hanoi Drip and follow the brand as it works to take Vietnamese coffee from Vancouver to a wider global audience.

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From a $10 Craigslist Job to COO of a $300M Business Group: Richard Nguyen’s Road to E-XPIRE

Richard Nguyen grew up on the east side of San Jose, where he became caught up in street life at a young age. Looking back, he believed the path he was on could have ended with either prison or an early death.

Then came the moment that made him reconsider where his life was headed.

He overheard his mother speaking with friends about their children. She talked about relatives who had graduated from college, while Richard felt she had little she could proudly say about him.

“She couldn’t say anything good about me,” Richard recalled.

His mother was raising the family on her own, and hearing her disappointment became a wake-up call. Richard knew he couldn’t continue down the same path and decided he needed to find a different direction.

He took a job he found on Craigslist for $10 an hour, unsure of where it would lead. It became his entry point into an industry where he would spend the next 15 years learning and building experience.

What started as a decision to change his life would eventually become the foundation for something much bigger.

Years later, that experience would bring him together with Jack and David Nguyen and a growing group of IT hardware businesses.

Twin brothers Jack and David Nguyen

The Brothers Behind the Business

Years before Richard partnered with them, twin brothers Jack and David Nguyen were already building their footprint in the IT hardware industry.

Around two decades ago, they saw an opportunity in used computer equipment and began reselling components, primarily semiconductors and RAM. That business became RAM Exchange, which eventually grew into what Jack described as a $50 million-a-year company.

From there, the brothers expanded into servers, networking equipment, drives, and other data center hardware through IT Server Exchange.

By then, Richard had spent years building his own expertise in the same industry. Their paths were about to come together.

Bringing Richard Into the Business

Richard was working for a competitor at the time, but his experience and reputation had already caught Jack and David’s attention. They knew his understanding of the IT hardware business and respected the grit, loyalty, and work ethic he brought to his work.

Eventually, Richard took a risk of his own and started E-XPIRE, focusing on IT asset disposition, secure data destruction, and electronics recycling.

As E-XPIRE grew, Jack and David saw more than Richard’s industry experience. They saw someone who could build a business, lead a team, and execute.

But Richard had already taken the risk of becoming an entrepreneur himself. Bringing him into their business would require more than offering him a position.

The opportunity became a partnership. E-XPIRE and IT Server Exchange merged, bringing Richard’s ITAD expertise together with Jack and David’s established hardware business. Richard became an equal partner in IT Server Exchange and took on the role of COO.

“We gave him the keys,” Jack said.

The merger brought together two complementary sides of the industry and created an opportunity to build something larger. Richard came in ready to rethink how the operation worked, and Jack and David gave him the freedom to make the changes he believed the business needed.

Their roles complemented each other. Richard took the lead on operations, execution, and building the team, while Jack and David provided the business foundation, resources, and support behind him. Jack described himself and David as Richard’s “pillars.”

Together, they continued growing RAM Exchange, IT Server Exchange, and E-XPIRE. Today, the partners say the three companies are on track for around $300 million in combined annual revenue.

What began with Richard taking a chance on himself and building E-XPIRE ultimately became the start of a partnership that would help reshape IT Server Exchange and support the growth of the wider business group.

Leading Through Culture

For Richard, how the team works is just as important as how the business grows.

He describes a culture built around speed, loyalty, and getting things done. Internally, the team uses the phrase “GSD,” short for “get stuff done.”

Richard also sees his employees’ livelihoods as a personal responsibility.

“I work 18-hour days because it’s for my team and my family,” he said.

David credits Richard with creating a culture where employees feel that same sense of loyalty toward the company.

That philosophy is shared by all three partners. Jack said one of their biggest sources of pride is not simply revenue growth, but the impact their businesses have had on employees and their families.

Finding a Reason to Keep Going

For Richard, success still traces back to the conversation he overheard more than two decades ago.

Today, David says Richard’s mother lights up when she talks about him.

“Every time I see her, she smiles,” he said. “She’s so proud of Richard.”

Richard’s advice for people who feel the odds are against them is simple.

“Anyone can make it,” he said. “You just gotta find a reason to do it.”

More than two decades after that conversation, Richard has given his mother plenty to be proud of. That same drive now carries into the work Richard, Jack, and David are building at E-XPIRE.

While companies race to adapt to AI, Jack, David, and Richard focus on what powers it: infrastructure. Their businesses support its lifecycle, from hardware to responsible decommissioning.

Today, E-XPIRE helps businesses securely destroy sensitive data and responsibly manage retired IT equipment. As technology continues to evolve, so does the need to handle what gets left behind.

Learn more about E-XPIRE and its work in IT asset disposition, data destruction, and electronics recycling.

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